Most things are done through a screen these days (shopping, dating, etc.), so why not date someone too? Online dating has pretty much become the norm, and if you’re looking for a relationship, you’re considered unreasonable if you don’t have at least two dating apps downloaded and ready to go.
But how do you navigate the world of dating apps? Especially if you are a newbie and have no clue. Well, here are some tips to help dating app newbies.
1. Find the right app
Choosing the right app(s) to use is crucial for the best chance of success. You need to know which ones are best for you, and for that you need to be aware of what each is known for in the dating business.
For example, if you’re a woman who prefers to take the first step and start a conversation, go with Bumble – women should message on this app first. Bumble works using this unique chat setup, so you’re bound to find good matches using it. You can also find apps that cater to specific dating pool preferences. Apps like HER and Grindr are for the LGBTQ+ crowd, Stir is for parents looking to date, and BLK is a dating app for black singles. There are even dating apps for seniors – you can find a compatible person at any age.
Of course, dating apps usually have boxes that you can tick or fill in to specify what you’re looking for in a partner. Hinge has introduced a dedicated dating intentions feature where you can specify the type of relationship you want at the moment.
Ultimately, everything will go much smoother and smoother for you and your matches if you’re all on the same page from the start. Having preferences is not a bad thing. By making sure you find the right app, you’ll save a ton of wasted time and energy sorting out matches.
2. Know what you want
Going from the previous point, you should know what you are looking for in a relationship before joining dating apps. And, until you do and can confidently say what you want, it’s best to avoid them.
This is one of the first serious questions people ask on dating apps, and sometimes you have to answer it when creating the profile itself. Be honest with yourself and wait until you know for sure what type of relationship you are open to, as this will save you a lot of heartache and help you not waste your time or the time of others.
3. A good profile is essential
Creating a good dating profile is half the battle of online dating. It should show the best parts of you without being embellished or overly polished.
The best thing you can do is be authentic. Answer the questions honestly and attach photos that best represent you and your personality. Don’t use overly filtered photos or photos from your trip to Italy when you were there seven years ago.
As corny as it sounds, be yourself, not some polished online version, but your true self.
4. Avoid the Fake Character
A mistake that many people make as online dating downright invents new personas when creating dating profiles. For example, if you’ve never hiked in your life, don’t say you like to do it on your dating profile just because it seems like everyone else has it on theirs.
Unless you plan to keep your relationships entirely online, remember that you will eventually meet the people you talk to, or at least that’s what most dating app users expect. . And, what if your respective match offers a hike for a dating activity, noting that it’s something you both have in common?
Don’t lock yourself into a corner and stay authentic. With the amount of fake online, most dating app users are looking for real people, so be one. Also, most people have learned to spot fake profiles lurking on dating apps.
5. Decide how much you want to show online
Since it has become easy to find people online with just a few clicks, decide how much you are willing to share before you even create your profile. Protecting your privacy when dating online is crucial.
Don’t upload images that display easily trackable information, such as a landmark seen from your balcony indicating where you live; or a photo of you with a name tag showing where you work. Unfortunately, there are a lot of creeps online, so be careful what you share. Not to mention the dating app scammers who are just looking for the right opportunity to hit you up and scam you.
Don’t be afraid to talk to multiple people on multiple apps simultaneously. Matching someone on a dating app is not the same as being in a committed relationship with them. You are free to talk to several people at the same time.
Maintaining multiple conversations at once means that if a match turns out to be a flop, you haven’t wasted days, weeks, or months just giving them your attention. It’s a great way to weed out your matches.
7. Learn to let go
If you’re on a dating app, you might get rejected, so learn to accept it and move on with ease.
You’re not going to match everyone’s preferences, so there will be days when you don’t get new matches. Some conversations can reach a point where they stall, and it’s not uncommon to be ghosted by your out-of-the-box matches.
Rejection is part of both offline and online dating, so the sooner you accept it as a normal and expected part of your app experience, the better.
8. Don’t get too carried away with the “rules”
A simple search online will reveal countless dating experts who offer tons of online dating rules. There’s advice on everything from creating the right profile and using the right images to the best opening lines to start a conversation and more.
You don’t need “expert” advice, though, because here’s the thing: While many of these so-called experts make good points, you don’t have to take their word for it. For example, many experts chastise people who share funny pictures meant to make you laugh on their dating app profiles, saying it shows you don’t have serious intentions.
But if you are a funny person who likes to joke around and make people laugh, these pictures will attract a person with the same sense of humor who likes to laugh. And isn’t that the point? To show your true self and find someone who finds it attractive?
Don’t be overwhelmed by expert advice and do what feels right.
9. Only do things you are comfortable with
Online dating is a constant back and forth with people exchanging information about themselves, what they are looking for in a partner, their hopes for the future, and so on. And as the conversation happens through a screen, many people lose their inhibitions and sometimes ask inappropriate questions or become too pushy.
Always remember that you don’t have to share information if you don’t feel comfortable doing so. You also don’t owe your matches a meet or call or anything else unless it’s okay with you. Don’t let anyone push you where you’re not ready to go and do things at your own pace.
10. Have patience
As with offline dating, online dating takes time. You’re bound to meet people who will make you regret every decision you’ve made so far and make you doubt whether you’ll ever meet someone you love. But that’s only part of the dating app experience. Many users agree that online dating sucks for all parties involved.
You have to accept that you’re likely to encounter dozens of nasty characters until you find some likable ones. And, even then, you might just have a friendly relationship that doesn’t progress any further. So be patient and give it time. So who knows, your next game might turn out to be the best.
Keep your eyes peeled for red flags
Online dating is an easy and convenient way to meet new people and develop new relationships, whether friendly or romantic. But with the growing popularity of dating through apps, many scammers are looking to take advantage of your naivety. people who refuse to accept no means no and keep bugging you; and people who don’t know what they want and keep wasting your time.
Dating apps are a mix of good and bad. So before you dive headfirst into online dating, you better learn to spot the signs of who you’re dealing with and spot the red flags. If you ignore or miss them, you are sure to regret it.